Title: Positive Parenting and Readiness for School
Category: Positive Parenting
There are numerous positive parenting techniques which help
prepare children for school. Four
of the most basic goals include:
1. Establish a healthy positive self image in each child.
2. Teach strong social skills.
3. Establish a home with a positive learning environment and one that respects education and makes it fun and exciting.
4. Share lots of quality family time together and thus truly be a family.
The foremost key to a child's success in school is a healthy self image. The most important step toward it is letting each child know how much you love him. This should be done verbally and physically with lots of affection and individual attention and praise. Use every opportunity to praise your child's unique qualities and efforts, specifically and sincerely. Avoid undue amounts of criticism. Strive for positive, consistent and fair discipline. Teach your child with each correction and remind him you love him and you want him to be his best. One of the greatest keys in determining your child's self esteem is your own self esteem as a parent. A child will emulate their parents and strive to be all the things they see in their parents, both good and bad. This is a great responsibility for us but it is very much worth the challenge. To teach vital social skills to our children we should demonstrate them daily in our own lives. In other words, if we are friendly, courteous and loving to all around us, our children will model our example and learn the essential skills of getting along with others. We can teach good listening as well as speaking skills by being a family that shares time together listening to each other courteously and respecting each child's opinion.
Encourage the youngest to express himself with good
questions and full attention. Ideally
your home will be a place where
everyone in the neighborhood likes to come, where kids are
always welcome. These vital
social skills, once learned, will help
your child immensely in their early school years and
throughout their life.
A child who is excited about education is usually one whose
family values education. Teachers
are revered and reading is more
important in the home than television. Unfortunately
this is not very typical of
American homes today but it is certainly worth
all of us striving for. Again, our
children will model our example and
so if we spend four hours a day watching TV and only
four minutes reading, we can't expect our children to be
dedicated readers. It is critical that we as parents control TV
time as well as other things (such as Nintendo) and keep them in
proper perspective with regular reading and good conversational
time. One of the best things
you can do with young children is to
read to them regularly. The
classics are especially good and books
which teach values. There are
numerous books available for even the youngest child's age level in all book
stores and libraries today.
Expectations projected by parents are usually
fulfilled by their children. For
this reason, strive to mirror a positive,
optimistic expectation so as to stretch each child to
his full potential. The
child with lots of praise in the home will
more likely have higher expectations for himself and strive to be just a little bit bigger because of that positive
expectation and high praise to criticism ratio.
There is no substitute for regular quality time with our
children. This creates lots
of happy memories and positive mental
tapes in their minds. No boarding
school, day care center, enrichment toddler
program or anything else can substitute for good quality family time shared on a
day by day, year by year basis.
Making meals a real priority and turning
off the phone and the TV is a good place to start.
Planning weekends, vacations and special times together as a family and
letting the children contribute to the planning is another great
way to build happy memories. Every
day is a teaching day and parents are their children's first and ultimately most
important teachers. Each child has
special God given gifts and qualities which must be nourished to flower into a
beautiful unique bloom. As parents
we should strive for the unique ingredients necessary
in each child's case to bring that unique bloom into its full flower.